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Wednesday 9th May 2018

Are you playing to win or playing not to lose?

On this adventure of life what is the game you’re playing? The first and more common game is Playing Not to Lose – the second and more exciting, more daring, rarer game is the game called Playing to Win! Which game are you playing both personally and professionally?

Playing to win

Are you playing to win or playing not to lose?

On this adventure of life what is the game you’re playing?

The first and more common game is playing not to lose and avoiding fear. The second and more exciting, more daring, rarer game is the game called playing to win!

We are bright people, and most of us learned long ago to avoid situations in which we fear. This could have been situations, which we personally experienced, or situations we learned through others experiences.

For example, you’ve had a long relationship; you split up – now your mind creates an association of fear and pain with relationships. There’s now a little voice inside your head, which says to you: don’t go there again, don’t expose yourself, don’t step outside your comfort zone, and don’t expose yourself to that pain.

are you playing to win or playing not to lose

In many situations, this makes eminent sense. Playing not to lose is about avoiding situations where we might lose, fail, be emotionally hurt, or be rejected.

We have built in early warning systems that alert us to these kinds of situations so that we can avoid them and thereby avoid experiencing fear.

Here’s the critical part…

Unfortunately, this early warning system often leaks over into other areas of our lives where we aren’t at true risk.

You need to read this part again as it is just so important:

Unfortunately, this early warning system often leaks over into other areas of our lives where we aren’t at true risk.

Playing to win…

Playing to win is about consciously choosing not to automatically avoid situations in which we might fail, be embarrassed, or rejected.

Why on earth would we consciously choose to do something that could lead to failure, rejection, embarrassment or even worse?

Because our goal is to grow!

Playing to win is about engaging with life, stepping outside your comfort zone, taking calculated risks, learning to become comfortably uncomfortable, learning to thrive on the adventure of life and seeing the unknown as your friend not your foe.

It’s about being comfortable with uncertainty knowing that uncertainty is the catalyst for growth.

are you playing to win or playing not to lose

Playing to win means consciously choosing to experience those situations that will help us grow. Further, it means going into those situations wholeheartedly, committed to going as far as we can with all that we have.

Emotional, spiritual, intellectual and material growth are the game’s payoff.

It’s a conscious choice…

We choose to play ‘not to lose’ and avoid fear because we believe our emotional survival is at stake.

We choose to play ‘to win’ in order to learn, grow and thrive.

Although it’s not often that black and white, the critical moments of our lives and careers often come down to a choice between the two.

Which are you going to choose today?

Are you going to consciously decide to play to win or play not to lose – both personally and professionally?

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Playing to win seems like the better game to me!

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